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Features > The Guidance Counselor
by Doug McClelland
(posted September, 2003)
From:
Hot for Prisoner
Subject: Prisoner Passion
Question: I've become involved in an exchange of letters
with a prison inmate. He's a young guy in for a relatively minor
drug offense. His letters are very hot and sexual and I am really
turned on by this scenario. I'm middle aged with no prison experience.
But when I told a friend about this he told me that this is one of the oldest scams in the book. My friend predicts that I will soon be getting requests for money.
Do you have any info on making these kinds of connections?
Dear Hot for Prisoner: Yes it is true that prisoners have been scamming men forever. Usually an exchange of letters or phone calls that make an emotional connection is followed by requests for money for cigarettes, shoes, or whatever. Sometimes this is followed up by blackmail, or worse crimes perpetrated on the victim upon the felon's release.
Nevertheless, there are also lots of gay men in prison and certainly some of them are harmless and looking for connections outside.
This is especially true if you are writing from the USA. America has the highest incarceration rate in the world (yes higher than China, Iran or Pakistan), due to aggressive sentencing laws. The US Justice Department recently released a study reporting that as of 2001, one in twenty American men has had prison experience (2.7% of the adult population). For black men the figure is one in six. The study projects that 11.3% of boys born in 2001 will go to jail in their lifetime under present policies (for black boys it's one in three). The Justice Department recommended building lots more prisons not liberalizing laws.
I'd suggest that you independently confirm your correspondent’s information. Once you have his name and prison location you should be able to find out what he is in prison for, his past criminal record, plus his age. Maybe even his mug shot. These are all in public records. Just call the prison to find out where to access the info. If he has not told you the truth on these issues I would recommend terminating the connection.
From:
Mikey
Subject: I Need a New Drug
Question: When I take Viagra I get major side effects: my
head aches, I get hot flashes, and my vision is blue tinted. I get
a great hardon but am now reluctant to use it due to the side effects.
I’ve heard a new drug is coming to do the same thing. Have
you heard of it?
Dear Mikey: Yes, a new drug called Levitra was approved August 19, 2003 by the FDA. It is manufactured by Bayer and GlaxoSmithKline, and offers men the first new option since the approval of Viagra in 1998.
I have not tried it yet but I read through some online discussion of users and the consensus seemed to be that Levitra lasts longer, works faster, has a slightly better success rate, fewer side effects, and costs about the same as Viagra.
Editor: Check our price comparisons for Levitra, Viagra and also the similar drug, Cialis by following the links.
From:
Unsure
Subject: Compatibility
Question: I have been with my lover for over five years.
The problem is that we are two different people. He is all about
love, passion and saying "I love you" every thirty minutes,
that kind of stuff. He doesn't like porn, any form of it. I, on
the other hand, am not the kind of person to say "I love you"
much and I love porn (if I could I would have porn playing 24 hours
a day), but again he does not want anything to do with porn at all.
I can't even have it in the house. We don't like the same kinds
of movies -- I like thriller suspense type movies, he loves comedy.
We have talked about having threeways and stuff but he won't hear
of it. He only wants one person. He even gets uneasy when I look
at other guys. Before we got together I was a very sexual person.
Not that I would be a slut or anything, but I would be fun. I would
enjoy gazing at a hot bod at the mall or somewhere. Even though
we are total opposites we do have a bond, some sort of connection.
He's a fantastic guy. I know that if I needed something he would
be right there before I could even ask. He truly loves me and I
love him but I like adventure and the idea of being free. What’s
wrong here. Am I just a horrible person? What would be a solution
to my dilemma?
Dear Unsure: You are not a horrible person, you are just being you.
It sounds one sided to me that he gets to set the rules on these issues. That he won’t allow you to watch porn even when he is not there indicates he is way too controlling. Monogamy is an issue every couple deals with at some point but it needs to be agreed, not imposed by one partner. I’d say you need to sit down with your lover and discuss the rules of your relationship as two equal partners. If he will not treat you as an equal, and take your needs into consideration on these issues, I’d guess that your relationship will fail eventually. But it will be his fault not yours.
From:
'Roid Sufferer
Subject: Hemorrhoids and anal sex
Question: I have never had anal sex with a man but I have
used dildos on my own ass of various sizes and found it to be unreal.
Just as I decided to go and let one or two guys fuck my ass hard,
I came down with a ‘roid...the inside kind . I’ve had
it for almost eight months and every bowl movement ranges from somewhat
painful to blood curdling screams painful. I wonder what it would
be like if I was in a relationship and my partner wanted my back
side a lot…we would both be out of luck. This can't be the
first time this has come up. Friends of mine have said do not ever
do the surgery. Any advice?
Dear 'Roid Sufferer: Ouch! That’s a painful problem. Hemorrhoids are abnormally dilated veins in the lower rectum that can be painful and irritating during bowel movements and sex.
It sounds to me like your hemorrhoids are a big problem. Your friends are way wrong about the surgery, it is common, generally successful, and is probably the best option at this stage. If you do have anal surgery, your ass will probably be tighter than it is now, as there is no way to avoid scarring. This does not mean that you will not be able to have anal sex. What it means is that after two to four months of healing time you should be able to stretch yourself with a small dildo and gradually work up to larger and larger sizes until you reach one that is the size of normal penis. Surgery should not appreciably decrease sensation, and it should make your situation better once the hemorrhoids are gone. You need to discuss this with a doctor who is a colorectal surgeon.
I once had a boyfriend who developed this problem. After he had the surgery he was able to enjoy getting fucked after about two months healing time (he was in his twenties). So go get this taken care of.
From:
HNGXL
Subject: Tops
Question: Hey, about your claim that there are more bottoms
than tops. Show me some evidence that there are more bottoms then
tops. Any one ever done a study?
Dear HNGXL: I’ve come to the opinion that there are more bottoms than tops by thousands of hours of in depth personal research conducted over many years.
On receiving your letter, I consulted Keith, our Cruisemaster, knowing that he would be aware if a more scientific study has been done. His response was: “I've never seen such a study. But I'm with you -- experience shows that bottoms are far more prevalent. Tops rule in part because they are rare!”
If any readers know of such a study, please let me know.
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