Guys lining up at the hole to use the twink: 
Gloryhole Initiation!
Features > The Guidance Counselor
by Doug McClelland
(posted April, 2005)
From:
Simon
Subject: Gloryhole protocol
Question: First, thanks so much for taking the time to answer
all the questions of folks out there. I am new to the bi scene although
I have had fantasies for many years. I am actively involved with
a woman that I love dearly but she is not open to the bi side of
things. I’ve hinted at making it a reality in our sex life
and she is obviously against it. For this I have resorted to more
of the anonymous side of things although I would prefer to find
a discreet sexual relationship with a man that I could trust and
explore with. That has proved difficult.
My question related to gloryhole use is whether it is generally accepted to insist on condoms for oral. I have given and received oral without protection but it always takes the fun out of it as I end up freaking out later about disease. I'd prefer just to protect and enjoy. Are guys generally open to wearing condoms while receiving? I know I wouldn’t mind as no blowjob is worth any sickness, particularly what is out there these days.
Dear Simon: It is generally accepted that either party may insist on a condom. However, it is equally generally accepted that your potential partner may decline to use a condom and move on to have sex with someone else.
In my personal experience, most gay men do not use condoms for oral sex although I have met some who do. If I’m going to suck a cock I want to feel it and taste it in my mouth, not rubber.
But many bi guys and guys playing outside their primary relationships choose to use condoms because they have partners at home whom they wish to protect from this extracurricular activity. This is a very responsible approach. It is one thing to risk your own health, quite another to risk your partner’s as well. You have every right to propose a condom be used in your situation. Just be prepared for some guys to decline and to move on from there. You should only do what is comfortable for you.
If you go to the FAQ section of our site question # 4 has a link to an extensive explanation of gloryhole etiquette that goes into this at greater length.
From:
Kevin
Subject: Gay friendly cruise ships
Question: I'm a married bi male and my wife and I are considering
taking our first ship's cruise. Are some cruise ships more gay friendly
than others without being openly obvious? My wife doesn't know about
my other side. What cruise lines would those be? Are members of
the ship's crew often available for discreet encounters too?
Dear Kevin: I’ve heard that the Cunard line Queen Elizabeth 2 and Queen Mary 2 have discreet gay reputations. But what I would suggest to you is that you book on a ship that is hosting a gay tour as part of the larger passenger group. Nowadays there are many ships that have gay groups booked on them mixed with their regular clientele. You and the wife could be passengers on the same cruise as one of these groups. If you search ‘gay cruises’ on Google you’ll come up with a whole variety of gay cruise options. Simply find a gay itinerary you like and book on the same ship. You might want to consult a gay travel company to get some options for gay groups on major ships that you could plan around. Once on such a cruise, check out the gay group’s events schedule and join in where you can.
There are many gays among most ship crews but the crew socializes separately from the paying customers on the lower decks of the ship. A friend of mine recently told me that on the ship he worked on, one of the crew bars was for all practical purposes a gay bar. But it is very unlikely that you’ll be able to trick with crew members. They would be in major trouble if they get caught.
From:
Chopper
Subject: Sounds
Question: I have run across some pics showing guys playing
with sounds. I'm very curious to try. Where does one find info on
this subject? What are the dangers, etc.?
Dear Chopper: Sounds are medical instruments designed for insertion into the urethra, the tube connecting the bladder with the outside world. Basically, they are highly polished stainless steel rods with a handle and a rounded tip and they come in sizes which are very close to each other (differing in diameter by less than half a millimeter). In a medical setting, their purpose is to gradually and gently enlarge the urethra. In sexual and fetish settings they can be a source of exceptional sexual stimulation as they are gently pushed into your piss hole and down your cock.
Sterilizing is very important. Besides the possibility of transmitting HIV, non-sterile procedures can cause bladder infections.
I’ve never done it; it makes my toes curl just to think about it. But I have seen it done and the guy said it was fantastic.
This activity is often associated with the S/M community so you might look for a teacher in that milieu. To get more info try searching terms like ‘Medical Fetish’, ‘Urethra Sounds’, and ‘Medical Toys’. I found the explanation of the use of Sounds quite clear at: http://www.medicaltoys.com/MedicalFetishes2.html.
From:
JoeBlow
Subject: Burning question
Question: Boy, how to word this one! I've never seen or heard
about this problem before, but sometimes after I have an orgasm
it burns when I take a piss and it takes a long time to take that
piss. As I said, this doesn't always happen and it seems it is tied
to how close I am to having a bowel movement. I've been tested for
HIV and STDs so it's not that. It can happen when solo or with a
partner. The burning is more towards the head of my dick but I also
feel it a bit in my abdomen. The piss is of normal color and the
burning usually subsides after my bladder is empty but is always
followed by the feeling I will need to take a dump soon. Happens
about two or three times a year. Any info you could give would be
greatly appreciated!
Dear JoeBlow: Burning sensations are never good news. While you my not have an STD, you could have a bladder infection or urethritis. This highlights the fact that every guy needs to have a doctor that he feels comfortable speaking frankly with. There will always be things that come up from time to time that need to be checked out. You need to discuss this with a friendly doctor. If you are not comfortable with your family doctor go to an STD clinic. Explain the problem and get further tests.
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