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Features > The Guidance Counselor
by Doug McClelland
(posted August, 2003)
From:
Unsure
Subject: Need to play
Question: I am recently divorced after eighteen years. In
that time I have had many fantasies and have fulfilled a very small
amount of them. Now is my chance. Thing is, all these ads are of
young hard bodies and at fifty-one years old with some weight I
look at them and I feel I missed the boat. Am I crazy or what? What
should I do?
Dear Unsure: Fifty-one years old is not too late to have lots of fun. It may not be precisely the same fun that you would have had in your twenties but you should not worry about things you cannot change.
Let me relay the adventures of my buddy from last weekend. He is fifty-three and had not really been out on the town for a long while but he decided last Saturday to get out and have some fun. Off to the sleaziest bar in town he went and when he dragged himself in at 5:30 the next morning he was smiling from ear to ear. He had met a hot young guy from the suburbs who thought this fifty-three year old man was the sexiest 'daddy' he had seen in a long while. They had a great time together.
My point is that in the gay community there are a multitude of opinions on who is hot and what is sexy. What you see as fifty-one and faded could be someone else's mature and rugged. The main gay media give the impression that you need to be young with six-pack abs to be sexy but once you delve into real life, things are very different. You need to have broader horizons than the images you see in magazines and porn.
If you are going to answer ads, or place them, be honest and realistic. If someone is advertising for a young, buff guy, don't waste your time. Look for ads with broader parameters.
If you live someplace with a bar scene, don't hang around a disco full of kids. Find a cruisy bar with a mixed clientele. If you are on the heavy side, check out the ‘bear’ scene.
You may have missed the boat of early life but I assure you there are cruises leaving constantly in gay life.
From:
Butch But Slinky
Subject: Pantyhose
Question: Without going into all the details of how it came
about, my problem is that I have a fetish for pantyhose. It is not
that I am into women's clothing or drag. Something about the feel
of them on just makes me feel sexy. But if I pick up a trick while
wearing them the guy usually freaks out when I drop my pants. This
response is making me feel guilty of being a freak but I don't want
to give up my kink. What's a guy to do?
Dear Butch But Slinky: It always amazes me how quick guys can be to treat you like a freak for harmless fetishes they don’t happen to share. Your fetish is quite common and includes many straight men. If you are being 100% truthful that it is the physical feeling and not the transgressive thrill that gets you off then I have a suggestion for you: you can buy men’s ‘tights’ that are basically pantyhose in men’s sizes at http://www.glieberman.com/activskin/. At least then you can tell your trick that he is mistaken if he has the impression that you are wearing women’s lingerie. They should also fit better.
From:
Viagra Guy
Subject: Poppers
Question: I am a sixty year old married, bi male. I have
sex with my wife once or twice a week and use Viagra. I have gotten
to the point where without Viagra I have difficulty getting or maintaining
an erection. With it I can perform well for an hour or so. My sexual
capability is the same when I visit a bookstore or a bathhouse for
my male to male activities. From reading I understand that I should
not use poppers when I am using Viagra. I would like to try poppers
sometime as it seems that lots of people are using and enjoying
it. My questions: What, specifically, can I expect poppers to do
for me? Will it do the same as Viagra? Do you think I should stick
with the Viagra or experiment with poppers? Thanks for your time
and advice.
Dear Viagra Guy: Both poppers and Viagra can enhance sexual pleasure but they are quite different and not interchangeable. You know that Viagra increases the blood flow to your dick for an extended period. Poppers produce a brief rush (which is why you use it repeatedly) that intensifies sex.
I’d suggest that you get some poppers and try them out while jacking off without Viagra. Then you’ll have an idea of the effect. Poppers will not replace the effect of the Viagra. It sounds like you need the Viagra to keep an erection, so if you are a top you’ll want to stick to Viagra. If you prefer to get fucked you might opt for the poppers as maintaining an erection is not as important, and poppers can really enhance getting fucked. Poppers are also great for both partners in oral sex.
As deaths have been recorded from combining Viagra and poppers, it is obvious that some men are combining them. If you are strong and healthy the combination is not likely to kill you. I’ve had a couple of snorts of poppers while trying Viagra and it was no problem. But I was paranoid to take a lot of poppers because of the strong medical warnings.
The medical warnings on GayHealth.com include the following information: “Poppers increase your heart rate and expands your blood vessels. The combined effects cause your blood pressure to drop precipitously. The rush comes as your heart struggles to keep blood flowing to your brain. Some deaths have occurred in men who used poppers in combination with Viagra. Both drugs dilate blood vessels, and when combined, they can cause blood pressure to drop so low that your heart and brain don't get enough oxygen to function. Do not use poppers if you have heart disease or take blood pressure medication or if you are anemic or suffer from glaucoma. The interactions are dangerous and can be fatal. Use of poppers with any drug or medication that lowers blood pressure is dangerous and potentially life threatening. Those who are anemic, have high blood pressure, blocked arteries, heart trouble or a family history of cerebral hemorrhaging should avoid using the drug.”
From:
Cal in Oregon
Subject: Arcades
Question: I'm a straight male, thirty years old, very sexually
comfortable with myself, that has recently thought about ‘trying
the other side’. I'm not looking for anything hardcore but
was pondering the male-to-male experience. My question is where
does someone like myself look into fulfilling a somewhat fantasy
without any major issues involved. I've been on a few sites looking
around and the discretion is rather vague, if not bleak. If you
have any advice for the curious, please let me know.
Dear Cal: Good For You! Arcades and bookstores are great places for action. These place have always hosted the widest possible variety of men. Young, old, gay, bi, straight, buff or paunchy; all types frequent and succeed in arcades and bookstores. So I do not think you are unusual. CRUISING for SEX has the most comprehensive list of bookstores online, the Sex Listings, if you would like to look for others in your area.
They are a special favorite of our Cruisemaster, Keith, who writes about them frequently in his regular email newsletter. You can get his newsletter by going to the home page and looking for where it says “subscribe” in the left hand column.
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